♥ Reading 

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In the UK alone, seventeen babies are stillborn or die shortly after birth every day. But what does it feel like to lose a child you never really met? How do people cope with a loss like that? Shrouded by fear and taboo, the stories of these babies and their parents rarely if ever get heard. Speaking up loud and clear about her own son Finley and the challenging months following his birth, Mel Scott presents a warts-and-all account of life after the loss of a baby. Frank, insightful and moving, After Finley is an unexpectedly captivating book that gets right to the heart of the meaning of love.

The purpose of this book is to let bereaved parents know that they are not alone in their grief. With factual information and the words and insights of other bereaved parents, you can establish realistic expectations of your grief. Empty Cradle, Broken Heart is meant to help you through these difficult experiences by giving you things to think about, providing suggestions for coping and encouraging you to do what you need to survive your baby’s death. Whether your baby died recently or long ago, this information can be useful to you.

Little Fingers, Never alone in the shadows is a beautiful book written by Charlotte Nall following the devavstating loss of her son Micah. The book is broken down into small sections to help you through each day. Whilst the book acknowledges the intense grief felt by parents following the loss of a baby, it also offers gentle encouragement to take small steps forward, hope for the future and a directory of helpful resources at the back. Charlotte has raised enough money to offer this book for FREE to all bereaved parents. Simply click on the image to order your free copy. 

Leo Di Clemente was born on the 27th of January 2003 and died the following day. But what an impact he had, and still does have to this day. He lived a brave, meaningful and special life. For his parents, through all the pain and suffering caused by the loss of their first child, they have somehow managed to believe that life is still worth living, that the good memories will outlive the bad and that grief is not forever but love is.

Leo’s father, Mario, has spent the year since his son’s birth and death writing about his feelings, looking back in pain but also forward in hope. The result? Living With Leo. “This is a book”, he tells us, “about Leonardo Di Clemente and my life with him. For if in one very obvious way I am without Leo, in so many others we will be with each other forever.”

‘How I Came To Hold You’ tells the powerful real-life stories of seventeen families, each of whom has experienced the heartbreaking death of their child and then taken the step of becoming pregnant again. Their inspirational stories give a unique insight into the hearts and minds of these parents as they recollect the darkest days of their lives, how they came to the decision to try for another baby, and the challenges and emotions they experienced when expecting once again. These stories will hopefully provide other parents embarking on a pregnancy after the death of their baby with advice, support, inspiration and encouragement.

Through her own experience with miscarriage as well as through the voices of other parents who have suffered the devastation of their baby’s death, psychologist Hannah Lothrop guides parents through the experience of bereavement, from shock and disbelief to renewal and growth. This warm, insightful book also provides specific information for caregivers: hospital staff, clergy, relatives, or counselors. Thoughtful questions throughout help readers assess their emotions and identify their needs, and an extensive list of resources provides additional sources of support.

The five women sitting in the circle of chairs all had great dreams of motherhood. Then their babies died. Melinda sees blood on the floor every day after her loss. Dot believes the wrath of God caused her baby to die. Teenage Tina is trolling internet dating sites for a father for another baby, and Janet’s failure to cry means her wedding is off. Stella, the support group leader, must help them while facing the old choices that cost her ever having a family of her own. Based on the stories of dozens of real survivors, Baby Dust is a moving tribute to the strength of mothers who must endure this impossible loss.

Grieving parents will find in these pages the comfort of knowing they are not alone on this painful path, validation of their babies’ lives, and guidance from those who have suffered this tragedy. In addition, They Were Still Born both inspires and shows readers how to honor and remember their own babies and stories of loss. No parent- or grandparent-to-be sets out planning to purchase They Were Still Born. Unfortunately, there will always be readers-devastated, grieving, and searching for voices to help them through-who need it.

To the Brink and Back is a collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two year period. The book offers insight from fellow members of, in the haunting words of one dad, “this terrible, terrible club,” which consists of men who have experienced the death of a child. This book is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale. They are real stories that pull no punches and are told with brutal honesty. The core message of Grieving Dads is “you’re not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society’s expectations. 

A book available from the Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society written by veteran journalist and poet Andrew Don whose baby Lara Jean died during the fifth month in the womb. For generations, men have been expected to keep a stiff upper lip and to hold it together for wives and partners. In this book men speak openly about the pain of losing a baby and describe how, several years down the line, they have worked through their grief and found new joy in their lives. Fathers Feel too is disturbing, it is heart-wrenching and an education.
But above all it is a book of hope.

The Sands charity offer many helpful leaflets that you can download for free. Simply click the sands logo here to be taken to their resources page.

They also have a really helpful document for family members and friends  to help them in supporting bereaved parents. You can download this document for free.  Simply click here.

FOR BOOKS AND INFORMATION ON HOW TO HELP OTHER CHILDREN FOLLOWING THE LOSS OF A BABY, WHETHER THEY WERE BORN BEFORE OR AFTER A LOSS, PLEASE CLICK HERE.